How To Deal With Mean People

Today I want to talk about not getting too big headed. Yesterday was a really interesting day, I saw two different groups of people attack each other. One was kind of privately, they actually hacked her account, so I was helping her with that.

And another was actually doing it on social media with fake websites and making fun of people and blog posting using full names and just the works.

It was like a soap opera, an Internet soap opera, they should do a show! So today I wanted to talk about actually being just nice.

You know if you’re really upset with someone and sometimes I can understand being on a phone conversation with someone and you just found out and they’re admitting on the phone that they just screwed you!

I’ve had this happen and yeah, I got upset! But I didn’t turn around and blog their name and details and try to prove to everybody that they’re wrong and that I got screwed.

No, I moved on. So I don’t recommend doing that because it will come back to you, you’ll get a reputation.

I’ve got a reputation of being nice, that doesn’t mean that people don’t screw me every once in a while. It has happened, I have policies in place to minimize that or virtually eliminate it at this point because you know I’m a business, I don’t want to be screwed out of existence. So don’t do that, don’t start pointing fingers and start naming names even if you think you’re doing a service. You might actually be doing a service, but those people will come back at you and they’ll lie through their teeth, and you don’t know who’s gonna do it but I’ve seen this happen, they’ll just lie and make stuff up. Since they’re acting that way in the first place, they’re probably not that trust worthy, so it’s better to just back off and ignore them and forget about them.

If they owe you money, of course do what you legally can to get that but be private about it. So just don’t do business with people you don’t trust but be nice about it and don’t burn your bridges. You really have no idea who, in the future, is going to be big. Some people may be smaller than you business wise but they may might, you know, get a movie or something may might happen and the next thing you they’re huge and you may might want to joint venture with them. And if they screwed you in the past, you may might not wanna do that of course. So be nice, but have some policies in place of course. Be nice to anybody, don’t think, “oh, they’re a nobody”, because they might be a nobody now but they’ll be a somebody, sometime, if they’re good at this.

So keep that in mind because I’ve seen some people do that, you know really ridicule people, even from a stage and say “oh you guys all suck” and stuff like that, I know I had a hard time believing that as well! But they did, and some of those people are going to remember that when they’re big and when that person tries to approach them they’re gonna be like “Why? You just totally dissed me, you have nothing more to do with me”.

And now I can understand if someone comes to you and says,  “Hey my email list is two people, that’s all I got” and you may might have some policies in place like “No, I need you to have a certain number of people before I do a joint venture”. That is legitimate. That’s a good reason though; you can tell them that so that when they get to that point they can. But don’t just say “Oh you suck!” or “You’re a nobody” or what not because that person is a somebody and they may be bigger than you in the future.

Ok, so that was a weird day yesterday and I just wanted to give you the notes of what I learn trying to help some of these people kind of cope with this. Sometimes, you know you can’t help some people there’s people that attack. They’re too lost and gone. If there’s people that sell some products, some books, internet marketing products, info products online and they call them pedophiles or drug dealers, that’s someone that you probably don’t wanna do business with. They’re selling information, they can’t be that kind of person, they’re not! So there’s something internal with that person that’s thinking that, that’s thinking that these people, these big wigs are a problem and putting it in those type of terms.

There’s an issue there. No, they’re just successful and you’re broke if you’re thinking that way, those types of people! So don’t be one of those. Even if you don’t like some big wig and how they market, you know that’s his or her style, it doesn’t mean you have to follow them. You can pick your own ventures and do what you want. Yeah, I personally don’t like the whole rich jerk type of philosophy marketing, where you kind of are demeaning, I don’t like that. Why would anyone want to put up with being demeaned all the time and think, “Oh, let me give this person money”? I don’t get that. But I like people that have really good stuff that has really good content. If they happen to be really nice people, great! That usually goes hand it hand from what I’ve seen.

And with Social Media you can’t be mean and last. It’ll go viral and you’ll look like a jack ass. So don’t do it. Be nice.

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